Positive perspectives and practices for personal growth.

Thinking: Not Such A Bad Thing After All

I have been told often that I think too much; that I over-analyse situations, myself,  other people, life. ‘Don’t spend so much time in your head‘ is the usual line… ‘Just go out and do it’. As a kid, I have to admit I felt a little bit ashamed of my personality. I didn’t want […]

Acceptance

There’s a discord running through all our lives… a gap, or maybe a gulf, between what we have and what we want. Do you know what? The disparity between the two is – according to Eastern philosophy at least – pretty much responsible for all human suffering. The theory goes that not having what we […]

Life’s Better When You Drop the Pretence

Living under a pretence must rank as one of the most stressful things you can do. By contrast, letting go and just acting authentically must rank as one of the most liberating. Yet, despite the stress and strain of doing so, living under a veil of inauthenticity often wins out.  Why? It’s certainly not because […]

The 84th Problem

Life is often hectic, not to mention full of problems. So much to do, so many issues to resolve, so little time to get it all done. We’re left burdened and pressured to the point of being overwhelmed. Of course, some of us cope better than others with this hectic pace of life. My fiancée, […]

Life is Short, Misery is Optional

Life is way too short – I am coming more and more to appreciate – to squander in any shape or form. That means either allowing negative emotions to bring you down; or alternatively, wasting your time on the trivial, or on anything you don’t do with full personal volition. Negative emotions that I am […]

Chillax: 10 Rules for a Stress-Free Life

I just looked up ‘chillax’ in the Urban Dictionary, not because I’m so behind with the times that I don’t know what it means, but simply because I wanted a nice, succinct, as well as illustrative definition that goes beyond ‘a combination of chilled-out and relaxed’. Urban Dictionary obliged by offering the following:- To loosen […]

I Don’t Give a F**K About Anything, Me

I had a friend at University called ‘Ed’ – I can’t remember his last name but I remember his philosophy on life very clearly. Ed used to say in a broad Lancashire accent, “I don’t give a f**k about anything, me”. I couldn’t help but admire Ed’s philosophy on life because at the time I […]

Keep Calm

A good friend of mine stuck a poster up on my Facebook page the other day which reads ‘Keep Calm and Listen to Bon Jovi’. She had of course just read one of my many recent articles that have alluded to the lyrics of that great band for inspiration. It brought a smile to my […]

The Art of Optimism

As far as personality types go, I will happily admit to leaning towards the obsessive compulsive end of the spectrum; which, as a not so handy by-product makes me a naturally gifted pessimist too. Thanks to that innate pessimistic proficiency I can state with some authority the simple two part formula that offers a sure […]

Keep the Faith

‘Keep the Faith’ by Bon Jovi is one of my favourite songs. In fact, obsessive though it undoubtedly sounds, and indeed probably is, there’s unlikely to have been a 24 hour period in the last twenty years when I didn’t listen to the song at least once. Why? Well, in addition to the thumping bass […]