Positive perspectives and practices for personal growth.

Overcoming Broken Windows & Bottlenecks

Have you ever read an article, or watched a documentary, about some poor, dysfunctional soul who’s allowed masses of rubbish to pile up inside their house; so much rubbish in fact – accumulated over countless years – that they’ve had to move a mountain of bin bags just to get in and out of their […]

I Would Cope

Pessimism, when you get used to it, is just as agreeable as optimism. ~ Arnold Bennett, Things That Have Interested Me Optimists are blessed with a gift; one that according to psychologists is the most helpful personality trait we can possess. Those happy-go-lucky, ‘Cheer up, it’s not so bad!’ optimists always see the bright side. They see problems […]

Can I Do It?

How do you psyche yourself up? Do you tell yourself, “I can do this!”; “I’m really confident!”; “I’m really talented!” ; “I’m a winner!” ; “I’m strong and in control!”? Are you? The problem with such positive affirmations is that they’re nothing more than veneer statements… they lack substance; and like anything that’s devoid of […]

Acceptance

There’s a discord running through all our lives… a gap, or maybe a gulf, between what we have and what we want. Do you know what? The disparity between the two is – according to Eastern philosophy at least – pretty much responsible for all human suffering. The theory goes that not having what we […]

Limiting Emotional Investment

Nothing is important. We really are insignificant. A post on Universe Today just helped me to appreciate the sheer, incomprehensible enormity of the Universe… and highlighted by contrast, just how insignificant even the most egotistical and megalomaniacal of us should feel. There are, according to that post, 400 billion stars in our galaxy alone, a […]

I Don’t Give a F**K About Anything, Me

I had a friend at University called ‘Ed’ – I can’t remember his last name but I remember his philosophy on life very clearly. Ed used to say in a broad Lancashire accent, “I don’t give a f**k about anything, me”. I couldn’t help but admire Ed’s philosophy on life because at the time I […]

Monkeys, Raisins and Intrinsic Motivation

I’m not keen on experiments involving animals I have to admit, but one that always tickles me involved some rhesus monkeys, a simple puzzle and some raisins. In 1949, way before the Nintendo DS and Dr Kawashima’s Brain Training came on the scene, Harry Harlow, a Professor of psychology with an interest in motivation, gave […]

Have a Nice Day!

I have been increasingly berating myself in many areas of my life over the last couple of weeks. I’ve found myself dragging my feet with work, with exercise, with routine; all of which has created an underlying sense of frustration, as well as growing sense of urgency and anxiety…and the consumption of one too many […]

The Art of Optimism

As far as personality types go, I will happily admit to leaning towards the obsessive compulsive end of the spectrum; which, as a not so handy by-product makes me a naturally gifted pessimist too. Thanks to that innate pessimistic proficiency I can state with some authority the simple two part formula that offers a sure […]

Keep the Faith

‘Keep the Faith’ by Bon Jovi is one of my favourite songs. In fact, obsessive though it undoubtedly sounds, and indeed probably is, there’s unlikely to have been a 24 hour period in the last twenty years when I didn’t listen to the song at least once. Why? Well, in addition to the thumping bass […]