Positive perspectives and practices for personal growth.

What Are Principles Worth?

My fiancée and I have an ongoing joke… I tell her how great Spotify Premium is… how amazingly fantastic it is have unlimited access to zillions of songs for just a monthly subscription of just £9.95… And just to piss me off, she refuses to join. She was just offered a three month trial subscription […]

I Would Cope

Pessimism, when you get used to it, is just as agreeable as optimism. ~ Arnold Bennett, Things That Have Interested Me Optimists are blessed with a gift; one that according to psychologists is the most helpful personality trait we can possess. Those happy-go-lucky, ‘Cheer up, it’s not so bad!’ optimists always see the bright side. They see problems […]

Can I Do It?

How do you psyche yourself up? Do you tell yourself, “I can do this!”; “I’m really confident!”; “I’m really talented!” ; “I’m a winner!” ; “I’m strong and in control!”? Are you? The problem with such positive affirmations is that they’re nothing more than veneer statements… they lack substance; and like anything that’s devoid of […]

The Control / No Control Divide

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. One essential skill we all need – if we’re going to get anywhere in life – is the ability to rationally differentiate between those areas of our lives where […]

Single Tasking: The Key To Reducing Stress & Increasing Efficiency

Living in the present is a truly wonderful thing. It’s when you’re living in the moment that you’re truly released from the insecurities of your past, and when the uncertainties of the future no longer preoccupy your mind. It’s in the moment that you can give your undivided attention to what really makes the difference […]

Acceptance

There’s a discord running through all our lives… a gap, or maybe a gulf, between what we have and what we want. Do you know what? The disparity between the two is – according to Eastern philosophy at least – pretty much responsible for all human suffering. The theory goes that not having what we […]

Life’s Better When You Drop the Pretence

Living under a pretence must rank as one of the most stressful things you can do. By contrast, letting go and just acting authentically must rank as one of the most liberating. Yet, despite the stress and strain of doing so, living under a veil of inauthenticity often wins out.  Why? It’s certainly not because […]

The 84th Problem

Life is often hectic, not to mention full of problems. So much to do, so many issues to resolve, so little time to get it all done. We’re left burdened and pressured to the point of being overwhelmed. Of course, some of us cope better than others with this hectic pace of life. My fiancée, […]

Life is Short, Misery is Optional

Life is way too short – I am coming more and more to appreciate – to squander in any shape or form. That means either allowing negative emotions to bring you down; or alternatively, wasting your time on the trivial, or on anything you don’t do with full personal volition. Negative emotions that I am […]

Limiting Emotional Investment

Nothing is important. We really are insignificant. A post on Universe Today just helped me to appreciate the sheer, incomprehensible enormity of the Universe… and highlighted by contrast, just how insignificant even the most egotistical and megalomaniacal of us should feel. There are, according to that post, 400 billion stars in our galaxy alone, a […]