Positive perspectives and practices for personal growth.

What Are Principles Worth?

My fiancée and I have an ongoing joke… I tell her how great Spotify Premium is… how amazingly fantastic it is have unlimited access to zillions of songs for just a monthly subscription of just £9.95… And just to piss me off, she refuses to join. She was just offered a three month trial subscription […]

Stephen Sutton: An Inspiration

What an inspiration Stephen Sutton is, who died today at just 19 years old. He said, before his death from terminal bowel cancer, that if he could inspire people not to take life for granted, then his life would have had meaning. And whilst most people, myself included, would have just felt sorry for themselves […]

Acceptance

There’s a discord running through all our lives… a gap, or maybe a gulf, between what we have and what we want. Do you know what? The disparity between the two is – according to Eastern philosophy at least – pretty much responsible for all human suffering. The theory goes that not having what we […]

Life is Short, Misery is Optional

Life is way too short – I am coming more and more to appreciate – to squander in any shape or form. That means either allowing negative emotions to bring you down; or alternatively, wasting your time on the trivial, or on anything you don’t do with full personal volition. Negative emotions that I am […]

Who Needs Goals?

Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand. Thomas Carlyle I don’t do ‘goals’ well myself, in fact I struggle with most established performance related concepts like ‘detail’, ‘planning’ and ‘routine’…they’re all entirely alien to me. I’m a scruffy brained intuitive, creative, […]

Keep Calm

A good friend of mine stuck a poster up on my Facebook page the other day which reads ‘Keep Calm and Listen to Bon Jovi’. She had of course just read one of my many recent articles that have alluded to the lyrics of that great band for inspiration. It brought a smile to my […]

Becoming Human: Altruism over Egoism

I came across an old, but interesting study today about the return rates of lost wallets. According to the study, people are more inclined to pop a wallet back in the post if they find a positive message in it. What struck me however, was not the fact that you can appeal to a stranger’s better nature through a few well-chosen words of positivity, but the pitifully low return rates even then.

What the fuck is it all about?

On Monday as I was going out, I saw a very world weary young cat shivering under the warm engine of my neighbour’s car. I didn’t think much of it at the time until I got home a few hours later and saw the same world-weary young cat shivering outside another neighbour’s doorway. That cat’s short life I immediately saw had been filled with nothing but loneliness and hardship; all met with total indifference from people who could have helped but instead choose to ignore – either out of ignorance or uncompassionate indifference.

The Secret of Emotional Independence

Think of a time when you felt let down by someone you cared about – maybe because they acted indifferently, selfishly, unsympathetically or lacked understanding. How did you feel? I’m guessing the upset you felt spilt over into, and affected many areas of your life – leaving your entire outlook on life flat-lined and marred with negativity.

The High Price of Dishonesty

My local supermarket offers customers the convenience of self-service checkouts where you can experience first-hand the reward of the confirmatory ‘beep’ as you scan your items one-by-one. I like these self-service checkouts; not only have I learned to derive a great deal of satisfaction from scanning my own jars of pasta sauce across the little precision beam of red laser light, but it means I can circumvent the droves of customers who actually want to stop and chat to the checkout girl.