Positive perspectives and practices for personal growth.

Stephen Sutton: An Inspiration

What an inspiration Stephen Sutton is, who died today at just 19 years old. He said, before his death from terminal bowel cancer, that if he could inspire people not to take life for granted, then his life would have had meaning. And whilst most people, myself included, would have just felt sorry for themselves […]

Life is Short, Misery is Optional

Life is way too short – I am coming more and more to appreciate – to squander in any shape or form. That means either allowing negative emotions to bring you down; or alternatively, wasting your time on the trivial, or on anything you don’t do with full personal volition. Negative emotions that I am […]

I Don’t Give a F**K About Anything, Me

I had a friend at University called ‘Ed’ – I can’t remember his last name but I remember his philosophy on life very clearly. Ed used to say in a broad Lancashire accent, “I don’t give a f**k about anything, me”. I couldn’t help but admire Ed’s philosophy on life because at the time I […]

Monkeys, Raisins and Intrinsic Motivation

I’m not keen on experiments involving animals I have to admit, but one that always tickles me involved some rhesus monkeys, a simple puzzle and some raisins. In 1949, way before the Nintendo DS and Dr Kawashima’s Brain Training came on the scene, Harry Harlow, a Professor of psychology with an interest in motivation, gave […]

Who Needs Goals?

Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand. Thomas Carlyle I don’t do ‘goals’ well myself, in fact I struggle with most established performance related concepts like ‘detail’, ‘planning’ and ‘routine’…they’re all entirely alien to me. I’m a scruffy brained intuitive, creative, […]

Have a Nice Day!

I have been increasingly berating myself in many areas of my life over the last couple of weeks. I’ve found myself dragging my feet with work, with exercise, with routine; all of which has created an underlying sense of frustration, as well as growing sense of urgency and anxiety…and the consumption of one too many […]

Becoming Human: Altruism over Egoism

I came across an old, but interesting study today about the return rates of lost wallets. According to the study, people are more inclined to pop a wallet back in the post if they find a positive message in it. What struck me however, was not the fact that you can appeal to a stranger’s better nature through a few well-chosen words of positivity, but the pitifully low return rates even then.

Goodbye George

I’ve just buried George under a rose bush in my back garden. I’m sitting here still caked in mud, the ground saturated with water thanks to heavy December rain. I’m feeling that strange mix of guilt, regret and anger that often accompanies loss. Guilt because I feel I could have done more for him; regret because I feel that had I taken him in just a day earlier it could have made all the difference; and anger at the lack of comfort and companionship George must have experienced in his short life.

What the fuck is it all about?

On Monday as I was going out, I saw a very world weary young cat shivering under the warm engine of my neighbour’s car. I didn’t think much of it at the time until I got home a few hours later and saw the same world-weary young cat shivering outside another neighbour’s doorway. That cat’s short life I immediately saw had been filled with nothing but loneliness and hardship; all met with total indifference from people who could have helped but instead choose to ignore – either out of ignorance or uncompassionate indifference.

The Answer to Life, the Universe and Everything

More than anything else in life, nothing perplexes us more than the question of purpose. All those metaphysical favourites such as ‘What’s the meaning of life?’ and ‘Why am I here?’ intrigue us, subconsciously at least, all our lives.